Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Help!!! The Terrible 2's have returned!!!
So... I will start off this post for a request for any/all advice, words of wisdom, etc. Adam has reached a new stage of "The Terrible 2s". I actually read that this isn't too uncommon when kids actually hit 2.5 which he did a few weeks ago. In general, Adam is the most amazing little guy. Seriously. I know I'm the Mama and all, but he's a pretty cool kid. He's sweet, smart, lively, hilarious, fun, etc. He's the best. Now, that being said... he can also be very *challenging* at times. In a nutshell, Adam knows what he wants... and doesn't take "no" for an answer (or without a complete meltdown). Fortunately, at school, he's pretty manageable (or at least he has been... I SO HOPE I DIDN'T JUST JINX THIS!!!). Miss Lucette said last week that he's doing great... sometimes has trouble sharing.. but that's not uncommon with kids his age. She didn't seem that distressed about it so I wasn't either. Until yesterday. We were at a Halloween playdate with Adam's old buddies: Tomas, Addie, Asha, Benjamin & Nathan. At first, all went well and Adam enjoyed decorating pumpkins with his buddies:
For the first 2 hours that we were at Addie's house, he was pretty well behaved... some grabbing of toys/not sharing, but nothing too extreme & it seemed like all the kiddos were having this issue. Then, all of a sudden, Adam lost it. I was enjoying Stacey's baby shower (as part of our brunch/pumpkin playdate) and walked in the room to find Adam hitting Benjamin. Be still my heart. It seemed like Benjamin had a fire truck that Adam wanted and when he didn't give it to Adam, Adam hit him. OMG. Before I could even get to him, he went up to Nathan and tried to get his green truck. When Nathan didn't give it up easily, Adam pushed him. That was it... Adam said he was "sorry" without prompting (I guess my face said it all) and I packed up to go... but not before Adam went up to Asha and took the chalk out of her hands. Can you hear my loud sighs over the internet??? I was MORTIFIED and so very angry that Adam was acting this way!!! I'm a counselor, for goodness sake!!! (Deep breath). I realized once we got in the car that all Adam had to eat that day was 2 apple slices & chocolate milk (he was too excited at the playdate to eat). He devoured a bagel in the car. So I'm thinking hunger was probably a cause of his terror... but still. It's been 36 hours since the playdate and I'm STILL upset about it. We went to the library today for a class and he was great... until the end... when he, once again, hit somebody because "I wanted the bubbles".
Please, my lovely readers, any words of wisdom would be wonderful. I'm thinking of adopting a "Zero Tolerance" rule for aggression... as in, pack up and leave immediately. Any thoughts on that? Also, if you -- or anyone you know -- has gone through this, please do tell. Knowing that I'm not alone in this really helps. Of course I hit the Internet and the bookstore last night, reading article after article on toddler/preschooler aggression. Yes, I realize that this isn't too uncommon but when it's YOUR kid being aggessive... well, it's just so upsetting. Especially since Adam really IS such a sweetheart... usually. See?